How to be assertive, without trying.

When we pursue what matters to us we become a more powerful version of ourselves.

Assertiveness is a powerful feeling, the confidence to pursue our personal desires and to direct our personal resources towards the attainment of our aspirations.

Too often we let judgements get in the way of our own power to assert, not wanting to be seen as ‘pushy’ or ‘arrogant’ we drop back, taking up the cause for another person’s dream, deeming that to be more important than our own.

Here’s the thing though, when we put our own energy into something that matters to us, that energy becomes the thing that drives us, it’s like a self filling fuel tank, pursuing our dreams becomes the driver to pursue our dreams.  Obstacles become the very platforms we climb up on to see further into the future.  The challenges we face, and overcome, build our resilience, testing our strength.  When we pursue what matters to us we become a more powerful version of ourselves.

There is a powerhouse within you responsible for continual growth, a part that constantly refreshes and redefines who we are, in the light of our own personal experiences.  That is the energy of the liver.

The liver is the only organ that can regenerate itself, you could donate some of your liver to another person and you’d both have a fully functioning liver.  And fully functioning is a colossal job, at any given time 10% of your blood is in your liver, filtering 1.4 litres of blood every minute.Untitled design (4)

The ultimate multi-tasker, the liver performs over 500 functions, simultaneously.  Helping blood clot, breaking down alcohol, chemicals, and other debris, making bile to break down fats and making and storing glucose for a quick burst of energy, on demand, it’s your own in-house laboratory, watching, identifying, removing, creating, storing, excreting and fueling everything you do, or want to do.

When we hook into the energy of this internal powerhouse we mainline right into our own confidence, ability and creativity.  No room for doubt or timidity, we are fuelled by the thrusting energy of personal renewal and regeneration, able to take the risk required to achieve the outcomes we value.

Consider the flower bulb beneath the soil.  The heat of the sun warms the earth and roots sprout, the bulb is doing 500 tasks simultaneously then, all at once, it thrusts up through the soil ‘here I am ready or not’; pushing through the barriers, making a decisive entrance into the daylight – that’s liver energy in action.

No compromise, no doubt, just confident assertiveness, in action.

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

So, what are you waiting for?

It’s time to claim your space, to assert yourself and achieve your aspirations.

If you’re struggling to hook into your internal powerhouse to motivate and fuel your own aspirations contact me to find out how I can help.

 

If you wanted to unpack your emotional baggage, how long would it take?

Do you ever stop to consider just how much emotional baggage you’re trailing around?  Does it fit in your tote? Your car? Would it fill a garage?

Can you imagine the weight of it? What effect does it have on you to carry the weight of that emotional burden around with you all the time?  Have you ever taken it off, set it down or even acknowledged the immensity of it?

Emotional baggage is the effect of all the hurts, criticisms and negativity we experience and store away ‘just in case’.  Initially it becomes a tool with which we believe we are protecting ourselves, like a game of emotional snap, we carry the emotional footprint of the incidents that wound us so that we will be able to spot them and stop them, before they hurt us again.

The truth, however, is far more sinister, as they set up home in our psyche and become the very sticks we use to beat ourselves with; creating and encouraging a destructive internal narrative that holds us hostage to the events of our past and prevents us from engaging with the hope, potential and optimism of our own unwritten future.

December workshops learn to dump your emotional baggage and tap into your inner guideDecember is the perfect time to focus on releasing the emotional baggage that holds us back.  See the trees, elegantly releasing dead foliage, allowing it to float down, to rot away and create fertile nourishment at the roots, preparing the ground for the adventures to come.

Working with the natural energy at this time we can elegantly extract the lessons from our own past experiences, keeping the learning whilst gently releasing the pain.

As the days grow shorter towards the winter solstice and our journey into the depths of winter, our bodies are preparing to cleanse, so this is the perfect time to de-clutter all the emotional baggage and make space for new ideas, possibilities and aspirations.

My seasonal workshops enable you to harmonise with the energy all around us and share tips, techniques and insights you can use to help your find peace, flexibility and resilience throughout the year.

This month sees more excitement as my Art of seasonal living workshops are now delivered online via Zoom as well as person to person.

So, if you’re ready to release the emotional baggage that is weighing you down, you can now join in from the comfort of your sofa too.

Workshops run this month at Haxby 7-9pm on 13/12/18 https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/dump-the-emotional-baggage-and-fly-tickets-52992247238

Stamford Bridge 12-2pm on 18/12/18 https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/dump-your-emotional-baggage-and-fly-lunchtime-edition-tickets-52992358571

Online (Zoom) workshop 7-9pm on 17/12/18  https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/dump-your-emotional-baggage-and-fly-online-edition-tickets-52992511027

Kinesiology: What, Where, When & How

The purpose of all my work is to help you get into the natural flow of life, known as the Wu Wei in traditional Chinese medicine, meaning ‘without effort’.

In the west we talk about being ‘in the zone’ or ‘in the flow’ and you may already have some experience of that; that feeling of everything going smoothly, seemingly without effort,  this is what we work towards with kinesiology; creating sustainable internal harmony that enables you to be the best version of yourself, achieving whatever you wish with ease, grace, calm and contentment and supporting you to handle the ups and downs of life, effortlessly.

I work 1-2-1 with clients, in my cosy clinic on the rural outskirts of York, in the North East of England.

I also offer Touch for Health Kinesiology Training, CPD workshops and monthly workshops designed to help you get the most out of yourself and the seasonal energies that are most active at the time.

Kinesiology is an interactive, non-invasive therapy, as a client you remain clothed throughout (you may choose to remove your shoes). We sit together and undertake a short but thorough consultation, to ensure all relevant information is captured, we then discuss the changes, both subtle and profound, that you are interested to address in your personal journey.

I then take you gently through the process of muscle testing, allowing you all the time you need to adjust to a space where, finally, the whole of your system can get involved in creating and accessing your own unique solution.

Together we’ll explore the binary muscle monitoring system.  This is the foundation of all kinesiology practice and you can ask all the questions you need as we go along.

Then, together, we check which aspects of you are already working towards the changes you wish to make and which aspects need some help to do that.

Kinesiology embraces a comprehensive range of techniques drawn and adapted from various disciplines, as well as plenty of its own, and your system will indicate which technique(s) are needed, you may also be given simple techniques as homework.  Homework reminder sheets are provided to help you.

After your session we check in to see how you’re feeling, you may feel some changes immediately and some may need time to evidence.

After your session you can carry on with your day and, when it comes time to go to bed, you may feel more tired than usual.  My advice is always to listen to the needs of your body; it is possible that your system has done some significant work that you might not be fully conscious of, so sleep, restore and allow the changes you have worked on to permeate.

Please contact me to book you own window into your unique world,

I look forward to working with you.

Claire

 

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Disclaimer: In my blog I share my personal experiences and insights from my journey.  Often I reflect on aspects of the human condition and, if my words resonate with you on some level, that is cool.  Please be assured that, if you resonate with it, then many others do too, I have 50 years of life experience to draw on and, like they say in the movies, any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental.

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